Raw to Roar with Ros

Episode one : Why HOPE?

Hope: a feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen

Fantasy: the faculty or activity of imagining impossible or improbable things

Cambridge dictionary

Choose to STAND.

Dr. Rick Rigsby inspires me in his series called “How ya’ living” about when he was at his young wife’s funeral bereft with grief, feeling hopeless and a solo parent to young lads who had just lost their Mum. He didn’t know where his next breath was going to come from. He turned to his Father, who said “Son, just stand!” That story has given me hope time and time again when I have faced what feels like a Goliath in my life.

I am so grateful that a quality I have acquired is perseverance and to stand in the face of adversity: it is what leads me closer to everything I want. If I let obstacles get in my way, rather than overcome them, I can feel hopeless. Not if I learn to just stand, and breathe. Those two simple things.

Nothing is as attractive as the possibility of hope. Nothing is as life changing as the motivation of hope. Nothing is more transformative than a heart filled with hope.

Dr Rick Rigbsy

In my website, http://www.authenticyou.life I explain what it feels like to be anxiously attached to another human being. One of the biproducts of growing up where my emotional needs weren’t often met in a healthy way, fantasy thinking was my survival technique. In the quote above, I describe the difference between what is hoping, and what is fantasy. There is a very fine line between hoping for what is possible vs the fantasy of what is impossible or highly improbable.

Recovering from insecure attachment, meant recognising when my thoughts were leading me to fantasy and I was disconnected from my body and my emotional wellbeing/feelings. It meant taking self responsibility for acknowledging where I was hoping for someone outside of me to take care of me emotionally, so I didn’t have to. I learned to stand and breathe. I don’t need to be afraid of my feelings. I can feel them: they are not fact! Hope is such a powerful emotion and the first step in becoming hopeful, especially out of this pandemic, is just to STAND!