About me

I am Rosalind. I grew up in a loving home, however, there was dysfunction in that my Mum suffered with bipolar depression and I learned at a young age to neglect my feelings and engage with the world outside of myself. My coping skill was to achieve. I constantly sought external approval and validation because that was the only way I felt valued. As a Scottish born South African, I grew up in a judgmental society where I carried shame for what went on at home. We hid it from the world, and I hid from myself. Still, I had lots of love in my life and was fortunate to have a wonderful and spiritual Church family. I also leaned heavily on my brother, who I am most proud of today.

After graduating with a Psychology degree, I married my childhood sweetheart and we settled in the UK. Then, at age 29, I was diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer and became unable to have children. We divorced in my mid-30s, leaving me alone and confused. After a long and happy marriage, I didn’t understand why I was attracting men who brought out the worst in me. I felt emotionally unbalanced and didn’t know who I was. Then my dad died, which left me feeling even more alone and afraid.

I struggled for many years, unaware of how I was trying (unsuccessfully) to control everything as a perfectionist and people pleaser. The constant strategizing in my head was exhausting. I was like a talking head that spread a lot of “fake news” to myself because I didn’t know how to feel. I was totally disconnected from myself and needed a lot of reassurance from others, making me feel like an emotional junkie. Another controlling move was attaching to outcomes. When something I wanted didn’t happen, I would experience crushing disappointment, which I couldn’t handle, so I would run away and shut down. I abandoned myself in this way again and again.

In 2018 I found the help I needed through an international behaviour training coach, who helped me find a new love for myself.  Today, I am able to feel my feelings and trust that I will be okay no matter what happens, which has led to an emotional freedom that is life-changing. I am also aware of my limiting beliefs and the stories that have kept me stuck. I have not only boosted my self-esteem, but also my value and self-worth. As the quote goes, “If you want to stop being a doormat, you’ve got to get up off the floor and walk!” My work with her has definitely gotten me off the floor! It also led me to her coach training program so I could help others do the same. Since August 2020, I have amassed more than 400 coaching hours from one to one, to group coaching calls.

Today I am happily living in Surrey, England, working as a Human Resource Generalist and Coach. My life is full. I am in a healthy, secure and loving relationship with Pete, and share my love with two little dogs.  Those who know me would describe me as fun, funny, kind and compassionate, with a heart of  contribution.

As a professional female working in a male dominated environment, I have two strings to my coaching bow.

Privately I work with people who identify with my story and seek emotional freedom. As a coach, I will help you connect with yourself by uncovering your limiting beliefs and the stories that dictate your life. With my Corporate background, and thirty years in Human Resources, I can help you become your best self at work by identifying your limiting beliefs, your self doubt and help you uncover what you are passionate about. We spend alot of time at work, we may as well enjoy it.

Value, self-worth, and trusting yourself are all possible if you are willing to put in the work. It has changed my life, so I hope to join you on your journey!

(I am a Fellow member of the CIPD. I am a member of the Association of Coaching)